I participated in a discussion on MMM forum today where a poster said the following:
More than 1 in 4 Americans report they feel stressed over money most or all of the time, and most say their stress over money has either remained about the same as last year (59%) or gotten worse (29%). http://www.latimes.com/science/la-sci-sn-stress-report-money-inequality-20150205-story.html
After reading the post and thinking about my own experiences, I realized that Uncertainty about the future is a big part of stress in any area…be it money stress, job stress, relationship stress or health stress. Unfortunately, I have been there, done that in all the areas I mentioned here. But, over time, I have managed to come to somewhat come to grips on each of them to varying extents. Today, I thought I will write about how I am handling my Money stress as a way to help some folks and as a way to learn from some more folks.
In my mind, there are three kinds of money stress I have seen/been around/experienced.
Type 1: Stress about money decisions made in the past
Examples in this type of money stress are:
- Bought a home in the peak of 2007 in a HCOL area (friend)
- Did not buy a home in 2009-2011 (me)
- Did not invest money when I was young….(me)
Type 2: Stress about money decisions of today
Examples in this type of money stress are:
- How will I pay my bills this month? (me)
- My car broke down..how can I pay for it? (me)
Type 3: Stress about money decisions of the future
Examples in this type of money stress are:
- How will I pay for retirement? (me)
- How will I pay for my parent’s care? (friend)
- Will I have a job in 3 months? (me)
- Can I even buy a house? (me)
People can be in any of the above three OR all three. At many points in life, I have experienced the following combinations of money stress:
- Type 1 only.
- Type 1 and 2 only
- Type 1 and 2 and 3
My attempts at overcoming Money Stress
But, as I have grown older and started chipping away towards FI, I have reached the following state of mind:
I am least stressed about Type 1
- stress is not zero..but I have mostly come to peace with my past
I am about 30% stressed about Type 2
I am 70% stressed about Type 3
- Figuring out what financial independence means to me really really changed my life. It reduced a huge amount of Uncertainty on what the financial future looks like for me and my family.
- Putting a $ value to each goal helps me stay focussed.
- Tracking my progress towards financial Independence via this blog really helps in the following way:
- reminds me of my goals pretty much every day.
- reminds me to work hard to protect my current income.
- reminds me to keep expenses as low as possible
- Working towards Passive income streams before buying a house.
- Sacrificing current desires for certainty about the future
- Worry about smaller periods of time.
- For example, if I only consider tomorrow, I have some worries. If I consider 1 year, my worries increase dramatically.
The Future
It has been a constant battle with money stress and basically uncertainty in life and I am sure that the battle is far from over. But, the above tips I have been practicing have helped me control the stress by slowly chipping away at the Uncertainties in my life…one chip at a time.
Hopefully, the above tips are helpful to others as well. Please share your own tips with me so that I can better my life by learning from your experiences.